Our mental health sufferers when we deal with drama, conflict, and discord. Especially with our family. Christmas is the perfect excuse to wave the white flag, call that family member or friend you defriended on Facebook, and wish them a Merry Christmas. One of two things will happen. Either they will hang up on you, or you will chit chat for awhile and perhaps reunite. either way, there is no downside. If you make the effort to reach out to someone and they do not reciprocate, then it's on them. your self-esteem gets a nice boost and it has the advantage of being the right thing to do.
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Tis the season to get bloated. We all tend to gorge over Thanksgiving and Christmas, but we all end up regretting it in some way. It's not a problem to splurge every once in awhile. but the problem is, Americans tend to think that moderation is for sissies. Diabetes, heart disease and a host of other chronic conditions don't take a holiday vacation. Enjoy yourself, but just be mindful that every decision has a consequence.
Unless you have serious money, you are like the vast majority of Americans, living paycheck to paycheck with little in reserve and a lot on credit. If you feel guilty because you can't afford to get your nephew that brand new Playstation, don;t feel guilty. Call up your nephew and talk to him. you don;t want to get in an adult conversation with finances (unless little tommy is 26), but there's no reason you can't tell him that while you'd love to get him the Playstation, perhaps it would be better to give him a gift certificate to Best Buy or Amazon. After all, after Christmas sales are great times to find deals on sales. furthermore, when children buy their own toys, they tend to take better care of them and appreciate it more. It sounds counter intuitive, but you're actually doing him a favor by sticking to your budget.
3. Avoid travelling by plane.
Experts agree that this year, approximately 7 quadrillion people will fly somewhere for the holidays (citation needed). Airports are packed, smouldering cauldrons of fascism and nervous energy. Unless you enjoy delays and layovers and crowded planes, avoid flying. If you can drive the distance, consider doing just that.
Many people have family who live really far away. You have to ask yourself, is the cost and the stress of flying really worth it? Don't get me wrong - family is family, but your mental health is important too. Flying for anything short of a bombing run over Tokyo or business is a relatively new phenomena. Don't feel obligated to go visit Great Aunt Vero 9 states over if you don't have the money or the time or the energy. With the money you save, you could Fedex her a Chromebook and Skype with her all Christmas day.
We often do things not because we have to but because of guilt. Ask yourself - am i doing this because I want to or because I feel i need to? If the answer is the latter, it is your right to rethink your travel plans.
For the most part, TV and movies bombard us with the idea that Christmas is the apex of human existence, a time of sheer joy when people of all creeds and colors wear loud sweaters and fuzzy antlers on their heads and are are always laughing or perhaps being touched by some incredibly grand gesture. Does this sound like the Christmas you know? If it doesn't, that's because what you see on TV and movies is total fiction. It is vital for your mental health that you measure expectations accordingly. You will eat too much, you will spend too much, you will probably interact with someone who annoys you. Embrace it. that's the true meaning of Christmas for you!